For many parents raising children with disabilities, shame quietly becomes part of the journey. We question our parenting, compare ourselves to other families, wonder if we’ve somehow failed, and sometimes even believe God is disappointed with us.
In this deeply honest conversation, licensed psychotherapist, author, and special needs mom Dr. Zoe Shaw shares her own unexpected story of placing her first child for adoption, raising a daughter with a rare genetic disorder, and wrestling with the painful belief that God was punishing her.
Together, Carrie and Dr. Zoe explore the difference between guilt, shame, and the concept Dr. Zoe calls Complex Shame—a deeper form of shame that often develops through repeated painful experiences and can quietly shape our relationships, parenting, and even how we see God.
Whether you’re newly navigating a diagnosis or have been caregiving for years, this episode offers biblical hope, practical wisdom, and compassionate encouragement for anyone longing to step out of hiding and experience the freedom Christ offers.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What Complex Shame is and why it affects many caregivers
- The difference between guilt, shame, and identity
- How shame influences our relationship with God
- Practical first steps toward healing
- How to recognize shame before it controls your decisions
- Ways to parent without passing shame to your children
- Why it’s okay to grieve the life you didn’t choose while still loving your child deeply
- How God’s pursuit of us continues even in seasons of anger and doubt
Eps. 55; July 14, 2026
Resources:
Dr. Zoe’s Website
Dr. Zoe on Instagram
Book: Stronger in The Difficult Places
Book: A Year of Self-Care: Daily Practices and Inspiration for Caring For Yourself
There Was Jesus Spotify Playlist
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*This podcast features honest conversations with special needs parents and faith-filled guests. While I deeply value the stories and insights shared, the views and opinions expressed may not always reflect my own. Any resources listed are shared for reference, not necessarily a personal recommendation. I invite you to listen with spiritual discernment and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in what you hold onto and set aside.
