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The “Shoulds” That Sink Us: Untangling Guilt in Grief

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The “Shoulds” That Sink Us: Untangling Guilt in Grief
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In this episode, Carrie M. Holt discusses the complex emotions of guilt that often accompany the grieving process.  She unpacks the difference between conviction (from the Holy Spirit) and accusation (from the enemy), and how the “shoulds” we carry pull us deeper into shame and self-judgment.

Carrie offers practical advice for managing guilt, including the importance of rest, replacing lies with truth, relinquishing control, and reveal – giving our feelings to God. This episode concludes with a powerful reminder of the listener’s identity in Christ, encouraging them to embrace their worth and value as God’s beloved children.

Eps. 27; October 14, 2025

Resources:

Reframing the Mom Guilt Narrative and Finding Your Strength by Amy J. Brown

Scriptures Referenced: Romans 2:4; II Peter 1:3;

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*This podcast features honest conversations with special needs parents and faith-filled guests. While I deeply value the stories and insights shared, the views and opinions expressed may not always reflect my own. Any resources listed are shared for reference, not necessarily a personal recommendation. I invite you to listen with spiritual discernment and ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in what you hold onto and set aside.

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